30 Days of Submission: Day 26

26) What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?

I seek someone who is loving and caring, someone who will allow me to take care of them in any way that I can and someone who will allow me to be autonomous in certain areas: for example, I'd probably flip shit if I were with someone who tried to control my eating/exercise habits, because I'm neurotic about them. Likewise for my housekeeping - I have a very OCD-type strict schedule for myself for that and I have no problems staying on task. But I do need someone to give me a gentle nudge in certain areas when it's warranted, and someone who is willing to explain "look, I'm doing xyz because abc" - not that everything ALWAYS deserves an explanation, but the big stuff? I like to know what's going on.

More pertinent, this post, I think, is time-wise. I used to have a strict rule about being out and proud of our relationship. If not, it was a dealbreaker. I've dated too many girls and guys who were otherwise involved or otherwise had hangups about their lives that prevented them from claiming me as theirs in a way that they should have been able to.  Obviously that's something that's not possible with my Love and something I'm willing to sacrifice for this one, because she's a keeper.

Other dealbreakers? Insulting my weight or insinuating that I can try harder in that area, because I can't. Demanding I drop family obligations to be with them is also a deal-breaker. It can get gnarly when the two mix, but I'm willing to at least TRY to work it out and try to keep the peace, as such was the case today. -Squeaky